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Father God, I pray for us
as a people, as a church.

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God, I pray that as we study
your Word that we would have

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the heart of Mary who sat
at the Lord Jesus' feet,

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that we'd be humble, submissive,
teachable, and available.

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God, for those of us who
have Martha proclivities,

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I pray we wouldn't
check our phone.

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I pray we wouldn't be
working on our to-do list.

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I pray we wouldn't be ruminating
over the fact that our friend

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or spouse didn't take the
shortest route to church today,

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so we're very frustrated with
them because we wasted some time

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and we didn't get
the best parking spot.

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God, let it all go,
may we let it all go.

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May we examine
Mary and Martha.

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May we have Mary's heart as we
sit at your feet to concentrate

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for a bit in Jesus' name.

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Amen.

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All right, Mary and Martha.
Are you ready to go?

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We get to study two
fantastic women today.

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So all of you women,
it's a special one for you.

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There you go.

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All right, here we go,
Luke 10:38-42,

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"Now as they went on their way,
Jesus entered a village.

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"And a woman named Martha--"
Stewart

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"welcomed him into her house.

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"And she had a
sister called Mary,

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"who sat at the Lord's feet
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"But Martha was distracted
with much serving.

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"And she went up to him and
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"'that my sister has left me
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"'Tell her then to help me.'

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"But the Lord answered
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"'you are anxious and
troubled about many things,

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"'but one thing is necessary.

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"'Mary has chosen
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which will not be
taken away from her.'"

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Here's the story
of Mary and Martha.

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Let me unpack for you six
initial observations and then

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we'll dig and delve and dive
more deeply into the story.

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Number one, Jesus had
foes, fans, and friends.

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If you are someone who leads
in ministry or business,

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or you're a musician
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whatever it might be,
you will have foes,

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people who choose
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You will have friends
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The fans like you,
the foes don't.

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The thing that is similar
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They choose you.
Friends you choose.

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So that's a special,
unique relationship.

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There were many who had
chosen to be Jesus' foes.

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There were many who had
chosen to be Jesus' fans.

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There were only a few that
Jesus had chosen to be friends.

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Jesus had friends.

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You and I need friends.

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We get to choose those friends

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and he chooses Mary, Martha,
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This is a family comprised
of two sisters and a brother.

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We see them in relationship
with Jesus through the gospels.

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He stays at their house,
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he loves them, he cares for
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These are close friends.

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Isn't it amazing that Jesus
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to be his friends?

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Who are your friends?

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Number two, second
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they were friends who
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Isn't it amazing that Jesus
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Well, who ministers to Jesus?

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Mary and Martha.
They feed him, house him.

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We see that Jesus is
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He's often homeless,

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doesn't know where he's going to
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they open up their home
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Those who are in leadership pour
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really helpful if there are a
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This is how it works.

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So if your friend is
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your friend is
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your friend is a deacon,
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your friend is a pastor, your
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church, or your friend's
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be asking yourself--maybe even
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or a parent that you know,
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How can you serve
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can more effectively
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Now, we don't know
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but perhaps at their house they
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I can't tell you how nice it is to
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from the region of Galilee,
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where he would be crucified.

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He travels far less
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He's definitely not coach.

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He's walking.
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Now I could tell you, even
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you're tired, you're
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and everybody is ready to
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That's how it works.

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They're all rested
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They're ready for you.
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So when Jesus pulls into a
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Everybody needs, wants,
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He's like a rung bell. He's tired,
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He needs a quiet place to be.
Mary and Martha know that.

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So you kinda get the picture.
They've got a guest room.

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"Here you go, Jesus.

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"Comfy bed, clean linens.

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"There's a flower on the table,

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"maybe a couple of things
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"Here's a nice meal.

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Take a nap, pray,
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What a gift that is.
What a gift that is.

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They understand that Jesus needs
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he could minister to others.

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Number three, the male
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had female friends.

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Mary and Martha
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Jesus has female friends.

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And see, this is exceedingly
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particularly at our church
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is single and unmarried.

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the closer you get to the urban
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so sometimes married
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but in a church like ours where
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the relationships between
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very confused because in our
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among those who are single
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gravitate towards sin.

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It becomes emotionally
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physically inappropriate.

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Things are not as they ought be.

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It's because the category that
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and a woman are to have a
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friendly relationship.

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So the Bible says,
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we should treat
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Sisters.

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With holiness and reverence
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That's what it says.

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So you can enjoy your sister,
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sister and there's nothing
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or inappropriate of
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and not gravitate toward
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but it is possible,
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to be a man and a woman who have
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that is not sinful and wicked.

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The Bible says this using the
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that Jesus is our big brother,
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for our sin, that he gives
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that he adopts us into
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and therein the guys
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and the gals are like sisters.

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That's all Bible language.

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And I didn't know this until I
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through Australia
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I think he's Ph.D.,
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for years at Cambridge.

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of the New Testament.

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Brilliant guy, loves
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And he had me into his home,
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and he taught me some stuff I had never
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One thing he said was that in
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of Jesus and in the days of
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it was actually illegal to call
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"mother," "father," who was not
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because that was family name,

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and, as a result,
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were tied to the family name.

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So you can't say,
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"That's my sister," because that
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And so when the Bible tells us
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and that God has created a new
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it is radically altering
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civic structure of what was,
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most powerful nation in
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It's because, through Jesus, our
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altered that we need new
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and it is the language
of family.

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And Jesus here demonstrates this
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with Mary and Martha.

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He's demonstrating that he is
like a big brother to them

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and they're like little
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in relationship with
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Number four, Jesus discipled
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To sit at someone's feet
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In that day, you were
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You were accepted by a teacher.

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So you didn't apply to Harvard.

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You applied to your rabbi.

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And if you applied to your
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investigated you, then you would
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the honorable position of
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while they lectured
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And so your commitment was
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a rabbi, than it was to an
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And lots of people would
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but only a few were allowed
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That's why we see
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in Acts 22 when he's reflecting
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before he met Jesus as savior

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he says that he was formerly
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"sitting at the feet
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That's his articulation of
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and instruction.

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So when we see Mary
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that means she has been selected
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to be a disciple of his and to
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from none other than
the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Some have wrongly maligned the
position of Mars Hill to say

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that we don't believe
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That's not true at all.

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No one can read the Bible
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from beginning to end,
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and should be involved
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should be
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encouraged, developed to use
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to introduce others to Jesus
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to grow in love with him.

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All women who belong to Jesus
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because they're all in ministry
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according to their
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Now Jesus doesn't have any
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just like the New Testament
church doesn't have any women

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among the office of elder, and
we follow that same precedent

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and pattern at Mars Hill,
but that in no way denigrates,

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disregards, dishonors,
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We see it here.
And this was a radical thing.

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Imagine going to
a very traditional,

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religiously oriented,
western nation 2,000 years ago

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where women were
not regarded, necessarily,

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as equal to men.

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They were not present in
the instruction among men.

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And you walk in to Jesus'
instruction and there are men

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and women sitting together, both
getting trained and developed

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for formal ministry.

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This is radical.

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This is revolutionary.

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And this is the gift
that was given to Mary.

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Number five,
siblings in general,

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but sisters in particular,
are just different.

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Again, six initial observations.

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How many of you have a sibling
who is different than you?

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Okay?
Slight chuckle.

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How many of you ladies have a
sister who's different than you?

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Here's Mary, Martha.

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Martha is the firstborn, she's
the older, she's the driver,

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to-do list.

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She's the gal who
comes home from school,

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checks the chores chart,
puts her backpack away,

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starts chopping
stuff for dinner.

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She has it all nailed down.

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Mary?
She's more like a butterfly.

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Wherever the wind's blowin',
that's where she's goin'.

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We had this conversation
in my house.

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My oldest daughter, Ashley,
is a lot like Martha.

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My younger daughter,
Alexie, is a lot like Mary.

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We had this
conversation at dinner

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and we had it again
today over lunch.

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And they were just cracking up.

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They walked into my office after
service and Ashley looks at

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Alexie and says, "Hi, Mary!"

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And Alexie looks at Ashley
and says, "Hi, Martha!"

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And they just both burst into
laughter because it's amazing

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how different they are.

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Number six, the church is a
family and, like all families,

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the brothers and sisters who
are different than us annoy us.

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Amen?

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Some of you are like, "Man,
I'm going to church

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"and I'm in community group,
but it's not working.

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They're annoying me."

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Oh, yes it is.
That's a family.

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We annoy one another
with our differences.

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And that's what happens
with Mary and Martha.

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Martha is annoyed by Mary
because Mary

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is different than Martha.

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And church is just a big family
with a lot of different kinds of

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kids who have a proclivity and
propensity to annoy one another.

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So we'll unpack this now and
we'll look at Mary and Martha.

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We're gonna try to get
you into a category.

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Now I'm gonna sit
down like Mary.

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Okay.

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We're gonna deal
with Mary first.

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Some of you are like Mary, some
of you are like Martha, okay?

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And you're gonna
need to pick a team.

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Who are you?

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For those who are like Mary,
Mary's more contemplative.

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For those of you
who are like Mary,

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you will gravitate toward
the contemplative disciplines,

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silence, solitude, prayer,
fasting, journaling.

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For those of you who are
more like Martha, active.

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You're gonna do things.

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You're a driver and a doer.

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You're gonna gravitate toward
those spiritual disciplines

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that are not contemplative but
active: preaching, teaching,

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serving, healing,
administrating,

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fighting for justice,
getting things done.

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Now, Mary is more word based.

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She sits at the
feet of Jesus,

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"Teach me the Bible.
Instruct me.

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I want to grow in my
knowledge of the Word."

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Martha's work based.

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Do something, get up,
make something happen.

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Mary is a be-bee and
Martha is a do-bee.

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I took this--
not like you're thinking.

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I took this--I did an interview
with a theologian,

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R.C. Sproul.

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Great, really fun guy even
though he's

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a Pittsburgh Steeler fan.

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His wife was there with him.
She's really cute.

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They've known each other
since they were little kids.

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They were literally running
around the elementary school and

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bumped into each other and have
been together ever since

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and now they're grandparents.

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And he explained it this
way, he said,

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"Well, one of us is a do-bee
and the other is a be-bee."

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And I thought it was cute so
I quote R.C. Sproul on that.

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Now Mary's a be-bee.

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It's all about being, being
with Jesus, being teachable,

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being humble, being present,
getting her time with Jesus,

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getting her
connection with Jesus.

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It's about being.
For Martha, it's doing.

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Gotta do the dishes,
do the laundry,

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you gotta do the chores,
do the task.

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We'd say that Mary is
Type B, Martha's Type A.

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Mary is worried about, to
quote Brother Lawrence,

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"The presence of God."

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Being in the presence of Jesus,
growing in love with Jesus,

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listening to Jesus,
being taught by Jesus,

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enjoying the presence of Jesus.

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She's in the living room.
Now, Martha's in the kitchen.

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What she's working on is not
enjoying the presence of God,

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but preparing presents for God.

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"Hey Jesus, I have a clean bed.

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"Hey Jesus, I made dinner.

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"Hey Jesus, I made
a cake for you.

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"I have a lot of
presents for you.

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"I don't enjoy
the presence of you,

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I'm creating presents for you."

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Mary worries a lot
about the relationship.

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"Did I get my time with Jesus?
Did I sit at his feet?

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"Did I listen?
Did I learn?

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"Was I humble?
Was I teachable?

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How's my relationship
with Jesus?"

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Martha's more worried
about her responsibilities.

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She's the gal with
the never-ending checklist

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of things to do.

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Now, how many of you gals,
earnestly and honestly,

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you would be freaked
out, like Martha,

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if you lived in a small village
and, sort of unannounced, you

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heard Jesus is in town along
with a whole lot of people,

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maybe 80 or 100 of 'em, and
he needs a place to stay

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and they need something to eat?

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And you realize that probably
is going to be your house.

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How many of you gals
would freak out?

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Short notice, you would
say, "Jesus can't come over.

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"I haven't had
a shower, I'm in sweats,

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"we don't have anything to
eat, the house is not clean.

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"There's no Costco here,
you know?

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"I can't just go pick up
wontons, you know?

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"This is
very complicated, you know?

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"A hundred people,
you know?

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How are we gonna
pull of dessert?"

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All of a sudden, she's
doing "Dinner: Impossible."

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Right?

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This is a lot to ask of a gal,
and all of a sudden she's

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going through her cupboards,
"I don't have enough plates.

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"I don't have enough
soup spoons.

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"I don't have enough napkins.
Oh, it's Jesus.

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"I can't give him
food poisoning.

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If I kill him, what
happens to the universe?"

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I mean, this is
a lot of pressure.

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All right?

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And you don't have
a lot of extra food.

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This is a simple,
rural village.

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Ahh!

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So she's all worried about
her responsibilities.

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Mary's all about a full heart.

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"Jesus, teach me, pray for me,
love me, serve me, encourage me,

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help me, fill my heart."

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Martha's about a full schedule.

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"We could this, then
we could do that,

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"and at 10:07 we're gonna chop
cucumbers and at 10:11

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we're gonna start making flan."

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I mean, she's just got
this all figured out.

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For those of you who are like
Martha, you cannot sit down.

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This is how you can tell
if you're like Martha, right?

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You're the person, you go to
sit down, you're like,

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"Oh, wait a minute.
That picture's not even.

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00:19:14,292 --> 00:19:17,208
"Okay, now I'll sit down.
Hi. Oh, wait.

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00:19:17,292 --> 00:19:19,000
"There's dust on that,
dang it.

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00:19:19,083 --> 00:19:22,000
"Okay, let me dust that.
Okay, I'm gonna come sit down.

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00:19:22,083 --> 00:19:24,375
"Oh, I forgot to put milk
on the grocery list.

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00:19:24,458 --> 00:19:26,292
Okay, let me go
write that down."

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00:19:26,375 --> 00:19:28,458
Come back, "All right,
well, I'll tell you what,

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"we'll just watch TV.

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Oh my gosh, there's
fingerprints all over it."

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And you can't, you can't,
you can't sit down.

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You're more like a jack-in-the-box.
Right?

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I mean, you're
just--you can't stop.

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You can't stop.
That's Martha.

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00:19:43,500 --> 00:19:45,333
No, let me ask you this.

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How many of you are Martha?

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Marthas in the house?

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Marys?
Marys?

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How many of you are annoyed
with one another? Okay?

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You can put your hands down,
but if you're married to someone

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who's--like, if you're a Mary
and you're married to a Martha,

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they're annoyed with you a lot.
Amen?

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00:20:05,333 --> 00:20:08,667
They may even be annoyed with
you right now 'cause maybe

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Mary drove and Martha's in
the passenger seat like,

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"This is not the
shortest route to church.

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"We're not going to
get there on time.

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00:20:16,458 --> 00:20:18,417
"There's never any
parking at Mars Hill.

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00:20:18,500 --> 00:20:20,042
You're gonna make us late."

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You walk in frustrated, Martha.

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And meanwhile, Mary's just like,
"We should have probably prayed

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"or something, I don't know,
like maybe we could have sang

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worship songs on the way
to church."

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Right?

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So here's what we're gonna do.

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Some of you will say,
"Don't stereotype me."

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00:20:40,125 --> 00:20:43,042
Okay, fine.
Stereotype yourself.

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You received a nametag on
the way in, you're like,

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00:20:45,833 --> 00:20:47,833
"Did the Baptists take us over?

438
00:20:47,917 --> 00:20:49,375
"Did we get ambushed?

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00:20:49,458 --> 00:20:51,250
How come we have a nametag?"

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00:20:51,333 --> 00:20:54,042
You have to write on your
nametag who you are,

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Mary or Martha, okay?
Mary or Martha.

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And if you're a guy, you could
write Marv or Marty if that's

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very difficult for you,
but I--okay, write it down.

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Who are you?
Mary or Martha? Who are you?

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Write it down, put your
nametag on. All right.

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And then I'll--who do
you think I am? Martha!

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Why do you think I'm in charge
today, yelling at all of you?

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If it was Mary, I'd
come down and hug you.

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That's not gonna happen.

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All right, so here I am.

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And this is gonna look
awesome on YouTube,

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"Hi, my name is Martha."

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And you're like, "Wow, she's
had a hard life, that one."

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[congregation laughing]

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00:21:40,417 --> 00:21:43,500
All right?
So put your nametag on.

456
00:21:43,583 --> 00:21:46,833
How many Marys?
Okay, okay.

457
00:21:46,917 --> 00:21:48,458
How many Marthas?

458
00:21:48,542 --> 00:21:50,917
Some of you say,
"I don't know which I am."

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Well then you're Mary.

460
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[congregation laughing]

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00:21:54,625 --> 00:21:56,375
All right?

462
00:21:56,458 --> 00:22:00,250
Martha knows.

463
00:22:00,333 --> 00:22:03,333
Amen?

464
00:22:04,542 --> 00:22:05,917
All right.

465
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:09,083
We're gonna look at Mary
and Martha a little more.

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It's kinda fun, isn't it?

467
00:22:10,667 --> 00:22:12,250
It's good.
All right.

468
00:22:12,333 --> 00:22:13,833
So we're gonna look at Mary.

469
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Now, first we're
gonna look at Mary.

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For those of you that wrote
down Mary, this is for you.

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This is what the Scriptures
say here about Mary.

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Luke 10:39, "Mary...sat at
the Lord's feet and listened

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to his teaching."

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Here's what the Marys like.

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Marys need time in the Bible.

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They need silence
and solitude and prayer.

477
00:22:32,417 --> 00:22:33,792
They need to go to church.

478
00:22:33,875 --> 00:22:35,500
They need to go to
community group.

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00:22:35,583 --> 00:22:37,542
They need to go to
Redemption Group.

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They need to be with God's people and
they need to sit at Jesus' feet.

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That's Mary.

482
00:22:43,417 --> 00:22:46,333
She wants to sit with her
brothers and sisters in Christ

483
00:22:46,417 --> 00:22:49,417
and she wants to learn the Bible
and she wants to pray

484
00:22:49,500 --> 00:22:52,542
and she wants to be equipped for
ministry so that she can have

485
00:22:52,625 --> 00:22:56,417
a heart that is full of love for
Jesus and a life that is filled

486
00:22:56,500 --> 00:22:59,417
with good works with Jesus.
Amen? That's Mary.

487
00:22:59,500 --> 00:23:01,667
Mary is fantastic.
She's amazing.

488
00:23:01,750 --> 00:23:06,167
Luke 10:42, Jesus, in speaking
of Mary to Martha, says this,

489
00:23:06,250 --> 00:23:07,708
"'One thing is necessary.

490
00:23:07,792 --> 00:23:09,333
"'Mary has chosen
the good portion,

491
00:23:09,417 --> 00:23:13,083
which will not be taken away
from her.'"

492
00:23:13,167 --> 00:23:14,667
Here's what Jesus
is saying,

493
00:23:14,750 --> 00:23:18,667
"Martha, there's a lot
you can do,

494
00:23:18,750 --> 00:23:22,167
"but there's something that's
most important.

495
00:23:22,250 --> 00:23:24,750
"In fact, Martha, you could take
everything you've ever written

496
00:23:24,833 --> 00:23:30,292
"on every to-do list and combine
their importance and they're not

497
00:23:30,375 --> 00:23:36,167
as important as
getting time with me."

498
00:23:36,250 --> 00:23:38,958
Mary chose the good portion.

499
00:23:39,042 --> 00:23:42,250
And here he's using curious
language because what's Martha

500
00:23:42,333 --> 00:23:44,750
been doing all day?

501
00:23:44,833 --> 00:23:47,792
Preparing a meal for
Jesus and his friends,

502
00:23:47,875 --> 00:23:53,083
as well as his fans, and I'm
sure she was going to serve

503
00:23:53,167 --> 00:23:55,667
Jesus the good portion.

504
00:23:55,750 --> 00:23:57,542
All right?

505
00:23:57,625 --> 00:23:59,875
He was gonna get
the big piece of chicken, right?

506
00:23:59,958 --> 00:24:02,542
And everybody'd be like, "How
come Jesus' chunk of cake is

507
00:24:02,625 --> 00:24:04,167
always bigger than ours?"

508
00:24:04,250 --> 00:24:06,333
Because he's God!

509
00:24:06,417 --> 00:24:09,667
So he always gets the chicken
leg and the big piece of cake.

510
00:24:09,750 --> 00:24:12,333
That's the good portion.

511
00:24:12,417 --> 00:24:15,250
And what he tells her is,
"You know what, Martha?

512
00:24:15,333 --> 00:24:17,958
"You are trying to give
me the good portion.

513
00:24:18,042 --> 00:24:21,417
"Mary was wise,
humble, teachable,

514
00:24:21,500 --> 00:24:23,292
"and available and present.

515
00:24:23,375 --> 00:24:25,708
"I gave her the good portion.

516
00:24:25,792 --> 00:24:29,250
"She got the best feast of all
because man does not live on

517
00:24:29,333 --> 00:24:34,542
"bread alone, but every word
that proceeds from God.

518
00:24:34,625 --> 00:24:38,333
Mary spent time with
me and I taught her."

519
00:24:38,417 --> 00:24:40,958
Jesus is her good portion.

520
00:24:41,042 --> 00:24:48,750
Jesus is our good portion, one
that will never be taken away.

521
00:24:48,833 --> 00:24:51,417
Once you're done with
a meal, it's over.

522
00:24:51,500 --> 00:24:55,833
Once you've spent time with
Jesus, that gift lasts forever.

523
00:24:55,917 --> 00:24:58,417
You're never the same.

524
00:24:58,500 --> 00:25:02,875
And so Mary is this gal who has her
priorities straight, first things first.

525
00:25:02,958 --> 00:25:06,250
Let me tell you what Mary's
not, 'cause I know some of you.

526
00:25:06,333 --> 00:25:09,500
And some of you are lazy,
selfish, disorganized,

527
00:25:09,583 --> 00:25:11,250
and ridiculous.

528
00:25:11,333 --> 00:25:14,333
And you will say,
"Well, I'm like Mary."

529
00:25:14,417 --> 00:25:15,833
No, you're not!

530
00:25:15,917 --> 00:25:18,375
She's not playing
the Wii, right?

531
00:25:18,458 --> 00:25:21,458
I mean, she's spending time
with--just 'cause you don't do

532
00:25:21,542 --> 00:25:25,250
anything doesn't mean
you're like Mary, okay?

533
00:25:25,333 --> 00:25:28,167
Okay, you're like Judas.
He comes up later in the story.

534
00:25:28,250 --> 00:25:30,250
That's a totally different
person in the story.

535
00:25:30,333 --> 00:25:34,042
So you can't just say, "I don't do
things 'cause I'm holy like Mary."

536
00:25:34,125 --> 00:25:37,250
No, no, no, no. It's not that
Mary's doing nothing,

537
00:25:37,333 --> 00:25:38,833
it's Mary's doing
first things first.

538
00:25:38,917 --> 00:25:40,458
The good portion is Jesus.

539
00:25:40,542 --> 00:25:43,333
She's getting time to
be discipled by him.

540
00:25:43,417 --> 00:25:44,792
You get that?

541
00:25:44,875 --> 00:25:46,500
And now we'll talk about Martha.

542
00:25:46,583 --> 00:25:49,750
Now, let me say
this about Martha.

543
00:25:49,833 --> 00:25:55,500
I love Martha and I don't
like the way she gets treated.

544
00:25:55,583 --> 00:25:59,125
Now that could be because I'm
Martha and I'm sensitive here.

545
00:25:59,208 --> 00:26:00,375
Now let me explain this.

546
00:26:00,458 --> 00:26:03,250
The way it usually goes
is Mary's bad--or rather,

547
00:26:03,333 --> 00:26:05,417
Martha's bad, Mary's good.

548
00:26:05,500 --> 00:26:08,583
Be like Mary,
don't be like Martha.

549
00:26:08,667 --> 00:26:11,208
Then we all kind of get
judgmental and religious

550
00:26:11,292 --> 00:26:14,792
and then we sort of condemn all
the Marthas and then all

551
00:26:14,875 --> 00:26:17,125
the Marthas--this doesn't
help Marthas at all.

552
00:26:17,208 --> 00:26:18,708
All Martha does
is says,

553
00:26:18,792 --> 00:26:21,500
"Well, then I gotta put more
things on my to-do list.

554
00:26:21,583 --> 00:26:24,333
"I need to read my Bible
and pray and choke Mary.

555
00:26:24,417 --> 00:26:28,000
You know, I need to
do these things."

556
00:26:28,083 --> 00:26:30,750
And it doesn't help Martha at
all because it just degenerates

557
00:26:30,833 --> 00:26:38,125
it into a competition and it
fuels the task--chore, list,

558
00:26:38,208 --> 00:26:40,458
works--righteousness.

559
00:26:40,542 --> 00:26:43,083
So I like Martha, okay?

560
00:26:43,167 --> 00:26:46,375
And I think Martha gets
a little bit of a bad bum rap.

561
00:26:46,458 --> 00:26:49,250
And there is a good
aspect to Martha.

562
00:26:49,333 --> 00:26:51,417
I'll show it to you
here in Luke 10:38,

563
00:26:51,500 --> 00:26:54,042
"a woman named Martha
welcomed him [Jesus]

564
00:26:54,125 --> 00:26:55,542
"into her house."

565
00:26:55,625 --> 00:26:58,917
Jesus comes to town, who's the
only person that invites him over?

566
00:26:59,000 --> 00:27:01,917
Martha!
That's a good thing.

567
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:04,833
There are benefits to
hanging out around Martha.

568
00:27:04,917 --> 00:27:06,625
Ask Mary.
All right?

569
00:27:06,708 --> 00:27:09,042
Apparently, Mary's sitting
in the living room and she's,

570
00:27:09,125 --> 00:27:12,375
you know, I don't know, getting
her quiet time with the Lord,

571
00:27:12,458 --> 00:27:15,833
and because Martha invites him
over she gets time to sit

572
00:27:15,917 --> 00:27:17,417
at Jesus' feet.

573
00:27:17,500 --> 00:27:21,250
That's a real bonus for Mary
that Martha made possible.

574
00:27:21,333 --> 00:27:24,042
Now, I don't know for
sure who owned the house,

575
00:27:24,125 --> 00:27:25,833
but her house--maybe
this is Martha's house.

576
00:27:25,917 --> 00:27:28,833
Maybe she picked it out and paid
the mortgage and organized it

577
00:27:28,917 --> 00:27:31,625
all and she's the queen
bee and this is her nest.

578
00:27:31,708 --> 00:27:33,417
I don't know.

579
00:27:33,500 --> 00:27:35,917
But she does welcome
Jesus into her home.

580
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:38,375
She's not an atheist.
She's not a godless woman.

581
00:27:38,458 --> 00:27:39,792
She loves Jesus.

582
00:27:39,875 --> 00:27:43,208
Her whole life is open to him.
Her home is open to him.

583
00:27:43,292 --> 00:27:44,792
She loves Jesus,
Jesus loves her.

584
00:27:44,875 --> 00:27:47,208
She serves Jesus.
She's attentive to Jesus.

585
00:27:47,292 --> 00:27:48,875
She's concerned for Jesus.

586
00:27:48,958 --> 00:27:51,917
She's a mature believer and a
godly woman who actually does

587
00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:54,500
some really wonderful things
and as you read the rest

588
00:27:54,583 --> 00:27:57,500
of the gospels, including
over into John,

589
00:27:57,583 --> 00:28:00,083
there are more occasions
where she shows up.

590
00:28:00,167 --> 00:28:02,375
She's an impressive gal,
she's an astute gal,

591
00:28:02,458 --> 00:28:06,667
she has some character defects,
but Jesus is working on them.

592
00:28:06,750 --> 00:28:10,333
So let's not dismiss Martha.

593
00:28:10,417 --> 00:28:11,875
That's good Martha.

594
00:28:11,958 --> 00:28:13,500
Now we'll go to bad Martha.

595
00:28:13,583 --> 00:28:16,333
Martha has a Martha moment here.

596
00:28:16,417 --> 00:28:21,042
Luke 10:40-42, "But Martha
was," what's the word?

597
00:28:21,125 --> 00:28:24,292
"Distracted with much serving."

598
00:28:24,375 --> 00:28:27,417
Can you be overextended,
overcommitted?

599
00:28:27,500 --> 00:28:29,042
Yeah.

600
00:28:29,125 --> 00:28:31,875
Can you reach the point where
you have nominated yourself

601
00:28:31,958 --> 00:28:37,250
to do too much and
you get distracted?

602
00:28:37,333 --> 00:28:39,583
"And she went up him," who?

603
00:28:39,667 --> 00:28:41,542
Jesus.

604
00:28:41,625 --> 00:28:45,833
"And said, 'Lord, do
you not care--'" ooh.

605
00:28:45,917 --> 00:28:47,583
That's not right.

606
00:28:47,667 --> 00:28:50,083
"'Do you not care?'"

607
00:28:50,167 --> 00:28:51,875
Here's what happens
to those

608
00:28:51,958 --> 00:28:55,458
who have a Martha heart.

609
00:28:55,542 --> 00:28:58,000
They become resentful.

610
00:28:58,083 --> 00:29:00,667
Now, outwardly it looks
like they're worshiping.

611
00:29:00,750 --> 00:29:04,542
Inwardly they're seething.

612
00:29:04,625 --> 00:29:06,875
"No one ever helps.
No one does their part.

613
00:29:06,958 --> 00:29:09,750
"No one follows through.
I can't depend on anyone.

614
00:29:09,833 --> 00:29:14,208
"No one ever helps me.
I love the Lord the most!

615
00:29:14,292 --> 00:29:17,542
"I'm working the hardest!
I'm burned out and frustrated!

616
00:29:17,625 --> 00:29:20,333
How come you never help?"

617
00:29:20,417 --> 00:29:22,333
How many of you
moms, you're like,

618
00:29:22,417 --> 00:29:26,333
"We shouldn't say
that to our kids?"

619
00:29:26,417 --> 00:29:29,417
Right?

620
00:29:29,500 --> 00:29:34,542
You feel self-righteous and
judgmental and holy because

621
00:29:34,625 --> 00:29:36,542
you're responsible.

622
00:29:36,625 --> 00:29:42,042
You see needs and you
work hard to meet them.

623
00:29:42,125 --> 00:29:44,458
Be careful, Martha.

624
00:29:44,542 --> 00:29:49,042
She walks up to Jesus,
"Do you not care?"

625
00:29:49,125 --> 00:29:51,042
Jesus would say, "Yeah,
I created the heavens

626
00:29:51,125 --> 00:29:54,458
"and the earth and I'm on my
way to Jerusalem to atone

627
00:29:54,542 --> 00:29:58,417
for the sin of the world.
I care. Thanks for the cake."

628
00:29:58,500 --> 00:30:05,042
You know? We show our care
maybe a little differently.

629
00:30:05,125 --> 00:30:07,417
How many of you
have felt this way?

630
00:30:07,500 --> 00:30:09,042
"No one cares."

631
00:30:09,125 --> 00:30:11,417
This can even happen when
you're involved in ministry.

632
00:30:11,500 --> 00:30:13,042
You're involved in
community groups?

633
00:30:13,125 --> 00:30:14,500
"No one cares about
community groups."

634
00:30:14,583 --> 00:30:16,042
You're in Redemption Groups?

635
00:30:16,125 --> 00:30:17,667
"No one cares about
Redemption Groups."

636
00:30:17,750 --> 00:30:20,250
Whatever it is, "No one
cares as much as me.

637
00:30:20,333 --> 00:30:23,250
"It's all up to me.
Woe is me.

638
00:30:23,333 --> 00:30:25,333
"I'm the only dependable,
faithful one

639
00:30:25,417 --> 00:30:26,917
and I'm burnt out
and frustrated."

640
00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:29,500
And sometimes our prayer life
can even sound like Mary's,

641
00:30:29,583 --> 00:30:31,333
"Lord, do you not care?"

642
00:30:31,417 --> 00:30:33,167
And we start bossing God around.

643
00:30:33,250 --> 00:30:36,542
You can read it, "'Do you not
care that my sister has left me

644
00:30:36,625 --> 00:30:38,458
to serve all alone?'"

645
00:30:38,542 --> 00:30:40,458
This is tattle tale-ing.

646
00:30:40,542 --> 00:30:42,375
You can tell they're
sisters, right?

647
00:30:42,458 --> 00:30:44,042
Right?
You can see this.

648
00:30:44,125 --> 00:30:45,750
It starts when they're little.

649
00:30:45,833 --> 00:30:48,083
You can see Martha,
stomping in, "Mom!

650
00:30:48,167 --> 00:30:51,417
"Mary's just in there dancing
and singing worship songs.

651
00:30:51,500 --> 00:30:54,667
"She's not setting the table!
She's not helping!

652
00:30:54,750 --> 00:30:57,125
"She's doing it again!

653
00:30:57,208 --> 00:30:59,500
"She's got a tutu on,
she's just playing.

654
00:30:59,583 --> 00:31:01,292
She's not!"

655
00:31:01,375 --> 00:31:03,083
"What are you doing, Mary?"

656
00:31:03,167 --> 00:31:05,500
"I'm singing to Jesus,
woo-hoo-hoo-hoo-hoo."

657
00:31:05,583 --> 00:31:06,958
Right?

658
00:31:07,042 --> 00:31:10,375
You can see Martha running
in, "I did her chores.

659
00:31:10,458 --> 00:31:14,500
I set the table.
I did it all myself, Mom."

660
00:31:14,583 --> 00:31:18,458
Ahh, the Martha heart.

661
00:31:18,542 --> 00:31:23,167
And so, it continues.

662
00:31:23,250 --> 00:31:25,917
"'Tell her then to help me!'"

663
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:29,792
Who is Martha bossing around?

664
00:31:29,875 --> 00:31:33,333
Jesus.

665
00:31:33,417 --> 00:31:35,208
That's a bad day.

666
00:31:35,292 --> 00:31:36,708
Right?

667
00:31:36,792 --> 00:31:38,208
"Do you not care?

668
00:31:38,292 --> 00:31:40,792
"Jesus, if you would just
do what you were told,

669
00:31:40,875 --> 00:31:42,583
"I would have this
all knocked out!

670
00:31:42,667 --> 00:31:44,333
"I have a plan!

671
00:31:44,417 --> 00:31:47,542
"And you and Mary just sitting
in there like singing songs and

672
00:31:47,625 --> 00:31:52,958
memorizing verses, hey, that
does not get meals made!"

673
00:31:53,042 --> 00:31:57,375
Now, she should have already
heard that Jesus makes food.

674
00:31:57,458 --> 00:32:01,375
He's already--right?

675
00:32:01,458 --> 00:32:03,375
I mean, a little
earlier in the book,

676
00:32:03,458 --> 00:32:06,000
a little boy came up to Jesus
with a Lunchable

677
00:32:06,083 --> 00:32:09,667
and he fed a stadium.
Right?

678
00:32:09,750 --> 00:32:12,667
She could have went in there
and sat down and said,

679
00:32:12,750 --> 00:32:15,542
"Hey, Jesus, you know what?
Everybody's hungry.

680
00:32:15,625 --> 00:32:18,583
"Do that free lunch
thing and I'll be taking notes

681
00:32:18,667 --> 00:32:20,708
here at the Bible study."

682
00:32:20,792 --> 00:32:22,542
She doesn't do that.

683
00:32:22,625 --> 00:32:25,333
Instead she nominates herself
for something that Jesus didn't

684
00:32:25,417 --> 00:32:29,000
appoint her to and then she's
frustrated when Jesus doesn't do

685
00:32:29,083 --> 00:32:31,667
what she tells him.

686
00:32:31,750 --> 00:32:33,500
Doh!

687
00:32:33,583 --> 00:32:36,125
What a Martha am I?

688
00:32:36,208 --> 00:32:38,500
How many of you are
burned out, frustrated,

689
00:32:38,583 --> 00:32:40,917
doing things that Jesus didn't
ask you to do

690
00:32:41,000 --> 00:32:43,083
in the first place?

691
00:32:43,167 --> 00:32:46,417
And all the Marys are
sitting next to Marthas going,

692
00:32:46,500 --> 00:32:49,500
"This is the best sermon ever.

693
00:32:49,583 --> 00:32:54,750
This is the best sermon ever."

694
00:32:54,833 --> 00:32:57,042
I can tell you
why Martha's single.

695
00:32:57,125 --> 00:32:58,875
She nags a lot!

696
00:32:58,958 --> 00:33:01,458
She's a nag.

697
00:33:01,542 --> 00:33:03,042
Right?

698
00:33:03,125 --> 00:33:05,833
Anytime Jesus shows up at your
house and you're chasing him

699
00:33:05,917 --> 00:33:08,083
around with a wooden spoon?

700
00:33:08,167 --> 00:33:12,833
That may be a reason why men
are not attracted to you.

701
00:33:12,917 --> 00:33:14,542
Oh, it's okay.

702
00:33:14,625 --> 00:33:16,375
We'll edit that out.

703
00:33:16,458 --> 00:33:20,417
"But the Lord answered
her, 'Martha, Martha,'"

704
00:33:20,500 --> 00:33:22,292
which is a term of endearment.

705
00:33:22,375 --> 00:33:26,125
This is--
"Come on, Martha.

706
00:33:26,208 --> 00:33:29,000
"Hello.
I'm God.

707
00:33:29,083 --> 00:33:32,042
"Martha, please.

708
00:33:32,125 --> 00:33:35,042
Think this through
with me here."

709
00:33:35,125 --> 00:33:36,833
"'You are,'" what?

710
00:33:36,917 --> 00:33:39,708
"'Anxious.'"
Stressed out, freaked out.

711
00:33:39,792 --> 00:33:44,458
Furrowed brow, grumpy,
grouchy, and troubled.

712
00:33:44,542 --> 00:33:46,250
"Oh, we're never
gonna get this done.

713
00:33:46,333 --> 00:33:48,625
"This'll never work.
There's too much to do.

714
00:33:48,708 --> 00:33:50,833
"I can't believe he
dropped in on me.

715
00:33:50,917 --> 00:33:53,542
"How come he has to have
so many people with him?

716
00:33:53,625 --> 00:33:55,500
"He didn't call in advance!

717
00:33:55,583 --> 00:33:57,458
This is not acceptable."

718
00:33:57,542 --> 00:34:00,833
She is "troubled
about many things,

719
00:34:00,917 --> 00:34:03,375
but one thing is necessary."

720
00:34:03,458 --> 00:34:05,458
"Martha, I know
you're freaked out.

721
00:34:05,542 --> 00:34:07,458
"You got a million things to do.

722
00:34:07,542 --> 00:34:09,333
"You're never gonna
get 'em all done.

723
00:34:09,417 --> 00:34:11,458
"So how about if we
start with this?

724
00:34:11,542 --> 00:34:14,917
Spend some time with me."

725
00:34:17,958 --> 00:34:21,542
Here's my conclusion.

726
00:34:21,625 --> 00:34:24,375
Not to the sermon.
That's gonna be a long time.

727
00:34:24,458 --> 00:34:29,500
But to the issue.

728
00:34:29,583 --> 00:34:33,292
I think the point of the
Bible here is Mary first,

729
00:34:33,375 --> 00:34:36,750
Martha second.

730
00:34:36,833 --> 00:34:40,542
Spend time with Jesus,
then get stuff done.

731
00:34:40,625 --> 00:34:45,167
To worship like Mary and
then to work like Martha.

732
00:34:45,250 --> 00:34:48,625
If all Mary ever does is sits
there and studies and never does

733
00:34:48,708 --> 00:34:53,750
anything, she's sinful in a completely
different way. All right?

734
00:34:53,833 --> 00:34:58,375
This would be like the guy who's on
his thirty-second year of Bible college.

735
00:34:58,458 --> 00:35:01,417
It's like, "Dude, seriously,
go do something."

736
00:35:01,500 --> 00:35:04,958
But if all she does is Martha,
do, do, do, do, do, go do,

737
00:35:05,042 --> 00:35:07,500
go do, go, go, go, go?

738
00:35:07,583 --> 00:35:13,917
She's gonna end up
distracted, anxious, troubled.

739
00:35:14,000 --> 00:35:17,625
And so the key is Mary
first, Martha second.

740
00:35:17,708 --> 00:35:19,542
Worship, then work.

741
00:35:19,625 --> 00:35:22,458
Worship God before you work so
that you could worship God

742
00:35:22,542 --> 00:35:24,167
in your work.

743
00:35:24,250 --> 00:35:26,958
And do the work that God
has called you to do,

744
00:35:27,042 --> 00:35:30,667
not chasing your potential,
but pursuing your calling.

745
00:35:30,750 --> 00:35:34,083
Not volunteering yourself as
the savior of the world

746
00:35:34,167 --> 00:35:36,417
to plug every hole
and meet every need.

747
00:35:36,500 --> 00:35:38,000
That job's already taken.

748
00:35:38,083 --> 00:35:40,792
And instead to spend time
with the savior of the world,

749
00:35:40,875 --> 00:35:42,750
asking him what
portion of the mission

750
00:35:42,833 --> 00:35:46,542
he's entrusted to your service.

751
00:35:46,625 --> 00:35:49,542
So we want Mary's heart
and we want Martha's hands.

752
00:35:49,625 --> 00:35:52,750
Amen?
That's what we want.

753
00:35:52,833 --> 00:35:54,542
We want Mary's heart,
Martha's hands.

754
00:35:54,625 --> 00:35:56,375
Now let me ask you this.

755
00:35:56,458 --> 00:35:59,375
Do we live in a Mary
world or a Martha world?

756
00:35:59,458 --> 00:36:01,292
We live in a Martha
world, friends.

757
00:36:01,375 --> 00:36:07,208
We live in a Martha--the
Marthas rule the world.

758
00:36:07,292 --> 00:36:11,333
America is now the most
overworked country in America.

759
00:36:11,417 --> 00:36:13,667
Americans work more
hours every year

760
00:36:13,750 --> 00:36:18,333
than any other nation on earth.

761
00:36:18,417 --> 00:36:24,542
We take our laptops on
vacation if we go on vacation.

762
00:36:24,625 --> 00:36:28,417
We have our phones and our
technology connected at home,

763
00:36:28,500 --> 00:36:32,292
on our day off,
late into the night.

764
00:36:32,375 --> 00:36:37,333
Work, work, work, work,
work, work, work, work.

765
00:36:37,417 --> 00:36:39,000
And what happens?

766
00:36:39,083 --> 00:36:40,792
We're troubled.

767
00:36:40,875 --> 00:36:42,667
We're anxious.

768
00:36:42,750 --> 00:36:44,583
We're distracted.

769
00:36:44,667 --> 00:36:47,500
And it leads to all
kinds of difficulty.

770
00:36:47,583 --> 00:36:54,417
Stress, anxiety, depression,
bouts with anger, heart disease,

771
00:36:57,500 --> 00:37:03,500
much of it attributed to playing
by the rules of a fallen,

772
00:37:03,583 --> 00:37:08,583
sin-filled, cursed,
Martha world.

773
00:37:08,667 --> 00:37:13,708
God has intended this world
to be Mary first, then Martha.

774
00:37:13,792 --> 00:37:19,750
God built this world to be a
Mary world with Martha moments.

775
00:37:19,833 --> 00:37:22,292
Now, in Genesis 3, when sin
enters the world

776
00:37:22,375 --> 00:37:25,375
and our work becomes cursed
and laborious toil,

777
00:37:25,458 --> 00:37:29,917
it turned into a Martha world
in which we have to fight

778
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,458
for Mary moments.

779
00:37:32,542 --> 00:37:34,792
I'll explain this
to you in two ways.

780
00:37:34,875 --> 00:37:40,292
Number one, in Genesis 1 and 2
that is the world as God

781
00:37:40,375 --> 00:37:44,500
created it, quote, "very good,"
Genesis 1:31, before sin,

782
00:37:44,583 --> 00:37:48,458
fall, and the curse, and
there was work to be done,

783
00:37:48,542 --> 00:37:52,083
but what we see is that it is
a Mary world where the man

784
00:37:52,167 --> 00:37:55,833
and the woman walk with the Lord
God in the cool of the day.

785
00:37:55,917 --> 00:37:59,917
They get time, proverbially
speaking, at the feet of Jesus.

786
00:38:00,000 --> 00:38:02,542
They're in constant communion
and relation and affection

787
00:38:02,625 --> 00:38:04,750
and communication with
the God of the Bible.

788
00:38:04,833 --> 00:38:07,167
It's a Mary world
with Martha moments,

789
00:38:07,250 --> 00:38:10,542
which is why in Genesis 2 it
says that the Lord God created

790
00:38:10,625 --> 00:38:14,542
the man and put him
in the garden to what? To work.

791
00:38:14,625 --> 00:38:17,542
So the world is to be a Mary
world with Martha moments,

792
00:38:17,625 --> 00:38:22,250
communion with
God and then work.

793
00:38:22,333 --> 00:38:25,333
We see this, as
well, in Genesis 1,

794
00:38:25,417 --> 00:38:27,792
where it describes
the days of creation,

795
00:38:27,875 --> 00:38:30,208
saying there was evening
and morning the first day.

796
00:38:30,292 --> 00:38:31,750
Evening and morning
the second day.

797
00:38:31,833 --> 00:38:33,417
Evening and morning
the third day.

798
00:38:33,500 --> 00:38:35,500
And so on and so forth.

799
00:38:35,583 --> 00:38:39,125
And some of you, some of you
may have caught this and you

800
00:38:39,208 --> 00:38:41,958
realize, "Oh, that's not how we
account for time

801
00:38:42,042 --> 00:38:44,500
in the Martha world."
Okay?

802
00:38:44,583 --> 00:38:47,667
In the Martha world,
when does your day start?

803
00:38:47,750 --> 00:38:49,500
In the morning.

804
00:38:49,583 --> 00:38:51,792
So the alarm goes off,
your adrenaline fires,

805
00:38:51,875 --> 00:38:55,875
you jump out of bed
and run like you're insane.

806
00:38:55,958 --> 00:38:59,125
And you go, go, go, go,
do, do, do, do, do, do, do.

807
00:38:59,208 --> 00:39:01,208
You're frustrated, you're
anxious, you're tired,

808
00:39:01,292 --> 00:39:03,625
you're burned out,
you're angry at everyone,

809
00:39:03,708 --> 00:39:06,750
you hate the traffic, you're
loading up on caffeine,

810
00:39:06,833 --> 00:39:10,833
you can't stop working, and then
you just run home and you work

811
00:39:10,917 --> 00:39:14,083
some more and your mind is
consumed and then you fall into

812
00:39:14,167 --> 00:39:17,375
bed and you're hoping for a
Mary moment and you can't start

813
00:39:17,458 --> 00:39:20,792
sleeping because your mind
is racing and your heart is

814
00:39:20,875 --> 00:39:23,583
burdened and you're distracted
and you're troubled

815
00:39:23,667 --> 00:39:28,333
and you're anxious.

816
00:39:28,417 --> 00:39:31,708
And you've burned yourself
out on a Martha day and you're

817
00:39:31,792 --> 00:39:34,792
trying to throw a Mary
moment at the end.

818
00:39:34,875 --> 00:39:37,083
And the way that God
established the world,

819
00:39:37,167 --> 00:39:38,833
it's evening and morning,
evening and morning,

820
00:39:38,917 --> 00:39:40,458
and evening and morning.

821
00:39:40,542 --> 00:39:43,458
The rhythm of our day is Mary
then Martha, Mary then Martha,

822
00:39:43,542 --> 00:39:45,292
Mary then Martha,
Mary then Martha.

823
00:39:45,375 --> 00:39:47,042
Because if the day
starts at sundown,

824
00:39:47,125 --> 00:39:49,500
in that culture where there's
no technology, no electricity,

825
00:39:49,583 --> 00:39:54,292
no transportation, no formal
digital communication,

826
00:39:54,375 --> 00:39:57,500
what happens when
it becomes dark?

827
00:39:57,583 --> 00:39:59,500
You go home.

828
00:39:59,583 --> 00:40:02,500
You put a log on the fire
and you light a candle

829
00:40:02,583 --> 00:40:06,625
and you start the wind down.

830
00:40:06,708 --> 00:40:09,500
You eat dinner.

831
00:40:09,583 --> 00:40:12,542
You enjoy your family.

832
00:40:12,625 --> 00:40:14,250
You read.
You pray.

833
00:40:14,333 --> 00:40:16,333
You play games.
You visit.

834
00:40:16,417 --> 00:40:20,583
You snuggle with your kids.
You hold hands with your spouse.

835
00:40:20,667 --> 00:40:26,542
You have a few friends over
and just enjoy their company.

836
00:40:26,625 --> 00:40:28,833
That's evening.

837
00:40:28,917 --> 00:40:34,833
And then as you have your Mary
moment, you have hours of Mary.

838
00:40:34,917 --> 00:40:37,833
Then, when the morning comes,
that's not the beginning of your

839
00:40:37,917 --> 00:40:41,042
day, that's the end of your day.

840
00:40:41,125 --> 00:40:44,042
You will have been worshiping,
and then out of your worshiping

841
00:40:44,125 --> 00:40:48,417
comes your working as another
aspect of your worship.

842
00:40:48,500 --> 00:40:51,500
So then you get up in the
morning, you go to work.

843
00:40:51,583 --> 00:40:56,333
But you do so with a Mary heart,
having spent time with God and

844
00:40:56,417 --> 00:41:01,458
his people in community and
communion with him and others.

845
00:41:01,542 --> 00:41:04,250
Let me ask you
this, practically.

846
00:41:04,333 --> 00:41:09,542
Do you have your evenings
well thought out and planned?

847
00:41:09,625 --> 00:41:16,750
Or is it just run home in a
hurried, frantic, insane pace,

848
00:41:16,833 --> 00:41:21,750
eat something, watch
TV, total chaos, crash,

849
00:41:21,833 --> 00:41:26,958
hoping to get some rest with
your mind consumed for what you

850
00:41:27,042 --> 00:41:30,667
did not finish today and
what you have to do tomorrow?

851
00:41:30,750 --> 00:41:39,750
Or have you prioritized your
evenings as the good portion?

852
00:41:39,833 --> 00:41:42,833
We need to get the
evenings figured out first.

853
00:41:42,917 --> 00:41:49,375
Meal, Sabbath, friendship,
family, reading, Bible, prayer,

854
00:41:49,458 --> 00:41:56,292
sleep, and then go to
work and get stuff done.

855
00:41:57,458 --> 00:42:00,917
And by go to work, that doesn't
mean you're going to a paid job.

856
00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:04,000
That may mean you're
a stay-at-home mom,

857
00:42:04,083 --> 00:42:08,083
but you get your Martha work
done after your Mary time

858
00:42:08,167 --> 00:42:09,500
the night before.

859
00:42:09,583 --> 00:42:12,458
Evening and morning:
the first day.

860
00:42:12,542 --> 00:42:14,958
Evening and morning:
the second day.

861
00:42:15,042 --> 00:42:16,750
Evening and morning:
the third day.

862
00:42:16,833 --> 00:42:18,333
Evening
is where it all begins.

863
00:42:18,417 --> 00:42:21,333
Some of you, your big problem
right now is your days are

864
00:42:21,417 --> 00:42:24,542
organized, your nights are not.

865
00:42:24,625 --> 00:42:26,375
Your days are effective,

866
00:42:26,458 --> 00:42:31,375
your nights are not reflective
time for God.

867
00:42:31,458 --> 00:42:34,625
I'll give you another example of
how God intends us to live

868
00:42:34,708 --> 00:42:37,458
in a Mary world
with Martha moments.

869
00:42:37,542 --> 00:42:40,458
Some of you may have noticed
that the Bible says that Jesus

870
00:42:40,542 --> 00:42:43,833
would be dead for three
days and then rise again.

871
00:42:43,917 --> 00:42:46,417
And you read the Bible,
he dies on a Friday,

872
00:42:46,500 --> 00:42:48,500
he rises on a Sunday,
and you say,

873
00:42:48,583 --> 00:42:50,333
"Well, that's not
three complete days.

874
00:42:50,417 --> 00:42:53,500
How does that count for three days?"
Here's how it works.

875
00:42:53,583 --> 00:42:56,542
Again, morning and evening, the
way that the Bible reckons time

876
00:42:56,625 --> 00:42:58,042
is different than us.

877
00:42:58,125 --> 00:43:03,375
And so Jesus is deceased for
a portion of three full days

878
00:43:03,458 --> 00:43:06,458
and when Jesus rises from
death, conquering sin,

879
00:43:06,542 --> 00:43:10,375
reconciling us to God, sending
us the Holy Spirit to become new

880
00:43:10,458 --> 00:43:14,750
people with new passions, new
pleasures, and new futures,

881
00:43:14,833 --> 00:43:17,375
he does so on what
day of the week?

882
00:43:17,458 --> 00:43:22,875
What day upon which does
Jesus rise from death?

883
00:43:22,958 --> 00:43:24,708
Sunday.

884
00:43:24,792 --> 00:43:32,458
Matthew 28:1, Mark 16:2, it
says that Jesus rose on, quote,

885
00:43:32,542 --> 00:43:35,958
"the first day of the week."

886
00:43:36,042 --> 00:43:38,750
You know what the first
day of the week is now?

887
00:43:38,833 --> 00:43:41,833
Sabbath Sunday.

888
00:43:41,917 --> 00:43:46,958
The day starts with Mary
time and then Martha time,

889
00:43:47,042 --> 00:43:52,458
and the week starts with a Mary
day followed by six Martha days.

890
00:43:52,542 --> 00:43:54,250
You get it?

891
00:43:54,333 --> 00:43:57,417
So the first priority, Sunday's
not the last day of the week.

892
00:43:57,500 --> 00:44:01,875
You don't run like Martha
and then collapse and try

893
00:44:01,958 --> 00:44:04,292
and recover in a Mary day.

894
00:44:04,375 --> 00:44:06,917
You make that first priority
and you start thinking about,

895
00:44:07,000 --> 00:44:08,917
"How do I reclaim the Sabbath?"

896
00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:10,333
Not in a legalistic way.

897
00:44:10,417 --> 00:44:12,583
Sometimes people legalistically
rule the Sabbath.

898
00:44:12,667 --> 00:44:15,000
That's what happens when
Martha takes over the Sabbath.

899
00:44:15,083 --> 00:44:17,750
All of a sudden it's a
whole to--you can't do this,

900
00:44:17,833 --> 00:44:20,167
you gotta do that, you
can't walk this far,

901
00:44:20,250 --> 00:44:22,542
you can't eat that, you gotta
prepare your meals

902
00:44:22,625 --> 00:44:24,542
the night before, you're
like, "Oh, my gosh,

903
00:44:24,625 --> 00:44:27,542
"I can't wait to go back to work
where it was simple

904
00:44:27,625 --> 00:44:29,958
and I didn't have such
a massive to-do list."

905
00:44:30,042 --> 00:44:32,750
When Martha takes over the
Sabbath, it's no fun at all.

906
00:44:32,833 --> 00:44:35,333
The point of the Sabbath
is rest, connect with God,

907
00:44:35,417 --> 00:44:38,333
connect with people.
That's it.

908
00:44:38,417 --> 00:44:40,375
It's supposed to be
a replenishing time.

909
00:44:40,458 --> 00:44:43,333
So you think through your first
day of the week is Sunday,

910
00:44:43,417 --> 00:44:44,750
the day of Jesus' resurrection.

911
00:44:44,833 --> 00:44:47,875
Go to church, have a meal,
hang out with your family,

912
00:44:47,958 --> 00:44:53,333
take a nap, get together with
friends, first day of the week.

913
00:44:53,417 --> 00:44:55,750
The week starts with Sunday.

914
00:44:55,833 --> 00:45:00,167
The day starts with sundown.

915
00:45:00,250 --> 00:45:03,458
How many of us have
had it all backward?

916
00:45:04,458 --> 00:45:06,792
How many of us have
had it all backward?

917
00:45:06,875 --> 00:45:09,875
We don't have time at
night for God and people.

918
00:45:09,958 --> 00:45:13,667
We don't have time on Sunday for
God and people because we live

919
00:45:13,750 --> 00:45:16,708
under the myth that if we
just keep punching out

920
00:45:16,792 --> 00:45:19,333
our Martha list, eventually
it'll be all done

921
00:45:19,417 --> 00:45:21,125
and we'll get our life back.

922
00:45:21,208 --> 00:45:26,167
I lived under that
myth for over a decade.

923
00:45:26,250 --> 00:45:27,917
We had children,
the church grew,

924
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:31,042
I eventually blew out my
adrenal glands, my thyroid,

925
00:45:31,125 --> 00:45:32,542
my health was terrible.

926
00:45:32,625 --> 00:45:39,625
I was grumpy--more grumpy,
frustrated, difficult, not good.

927
00:45:40,917 --> 00:45:47,417
I was like Martha,
distracted, anxious, troubled.

928
00:45:47,500 --> 00:45:50,458
And God in his providence
allowed me to feel a little pain

929
00:45:50,542 --> 00:45:53,542
of my folly and make some
corrections in my diet and my

930
00:45:53,625 --> 00:45:58,667
schedule and my life patterns
and habits and rhythms.

931
00:45:58,750 --> 00:46:02,375
And I'm not great at Mary yet,
but I'm by God's grace better

932
00:46:02,458 --> 00:46:05,583
than I used to be.

933
00:46:05,667 --> 00:46:10,000
And the truth is, Martha, you're
never gonna get everything done

934
00:46:10,083 --> 00:46:12,292
that you've got on your list.

935
00:46:12,375 --> 00:46:15,583
And if Jesus is last,
you'll never get to him.

936
00:46:15,667 --> 00:46:20,417
And so you make sure that
time with Jesus is first.

937
00:46:20,500 --> 00:46:23,042
Going to church, sitting, first.

938
00:46:23,125 --> 00:46:27,125
Going to community
group, sitting, first.

939
00:46:27,208 --> 00:46:31,875
Getting time with Jesus and
his people, first things first.

940
00:46:31,958 --> 00:46:36,167
Now, how many of you in hearing
this, you're Martha, you go,

941
00:46:36,250 --> 00:46:38,750
"Oh, man."

942
00:46:38,833 --> 00:46:41,417
Here's a few things
for the Marthas.

943
00:46:41,500 --> 00:46:45,250
Number one, be honest.

944
00:46:45,333 --> 00:46:47,292
Be honest.

945
00:46:47,375 --> 00:46:50,333
I believe Martha is honest
because what we learned early on

946
00:46:50,417 --> 00:46:53,583
in Luke is that Luke was not an
eyewitness to all these events

947
00:46:53,667 --> 00:46:56,333
in the life and
ministry of Jesus.

948
00:46:56,417 --> 00:47:00,083
So he went around funded by
a wealthy benefactor named

949
00:47:00,167 --> 00:47:03,500
Theophilus, which means lover
of God, to interview everyone.

950
00:47:03,583 --> 00:47:05,083
"What happened?
What did you say?

951
00:47:05,167 --> 00:47:06,625
How did it go?"

952
00:47:06,708 --> 00:47:09,667
So we know now that this is
a private conversation that

953
00:47:09,750 --> 00:47:12,500
we're investigating between
Martha and Jesus.

954
00:47:12,583 --> 00:47:15,708
So there's only two people
that know what was really said.

955
00:47:15,792 --> 00:47:17,583
And Jesus had already
returned to heaven,

956
00:47:17,667 --> 00:47:20,250
so Luke had to go
and interview Martha.

957
00:47:20,333 --> 00:47:24,042
And she gives us an
honest, earnest, repentant,

958
00:47:24,125 --> 00:47:27,333
accurate description and
depiction of the conversation.

959
00:47:27,417 --> 00:47:30,333
But what she doesn't give
is the unrepentant version.

960
00:47:30,417 --> 00:47:33,375
"Yeah, Jesus came over and
I had to feed 100 people.

961
00:47:33,458 --> 00:47:38,208
And like usual, Mary didn't do a
dang thing, but I got 'er done."

962
00:47:38,292 --> 00:47:41,333
It doesn't say it like that.

963
00:47:41,417 --> 00:47:44,375
"Good thing I was there."

964
00:47:44,458 --> 00:47:46,750
She doesn't say that at all.

965
00:47:46,833 --> 00:47:49,875
She says, "Oh, man, I was
chasing Jesus around the house

966
00:47:49,958 --> 00:47:53,667
"with a wooden spoon and
that was a bad day for me.

967
00:47:53,750 --> 00:47:57,292
"But Jesus lovingly, graciously
pursued me, corrected me,

968
00:47:57,375 --> 00:47:59,792
loved me, and taught
me and restored me."

969
00:47:59,875 --> 00:48:02,500
So Martha, first thing is you
gotta just be honest

970
00:48:02,583 --> 00:48:04,083
like Martha was.

971
00:48:04,167 --> 00:48:07,917
Tell the story of your life as
it is, not as you have told it.

972
00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:10,542
"Nobody's responsible.
I'm the only one.

973
00:48:10,625 --> 00:48:13,542
"I'm a total victim.
I'm gonna volunteer for everything.

974
00:48:13,625 --> 00:48:18,542
I'm gonna save everyone."
Tell it like it is.

975
00:48:18,625 --> 00:48:22,708
"I've overextended myself.
I'm not worshiping in my heart.

976
00:48:22,792 --> 00:48:25,333
"I'm seething in my heart,
even though it looks like

977
00:48:25,417 --> 00:48:27,500
"I'm worshiping with my hands.

978
00:48:27,583 --> 00:48:29,667
"I'm distracted from
first things first.

979
00:48:29,750 --> 00:48:33,292
"I'm anxious and I'm troubled

980
00:48:33,375 --> 00:48:35,750
and I've neglected
the good portion."

981
00:48:35,833 --> 00:48:40,333
Additionally, for us Marthas, we
need to know that Jesus here is

982
00:48:40,417 --> 00:48:42,958
not condemning her,
but he's inviting her.

983
00:48:43,042 --> 00:48:46,333
Now, when he comes to her
and looks at her and he says,

984
00:48:46,417 --> 00:48:49,000
"Martha, Martha," do you think
it's with a furrowed brow?

985
00:48:49,083 --> 00:48:51,375
Do you think Jesus is
giving her the stink eye?

986
00:48:51,458 --> 00:48:53,375
"Martha."
You know, grinded teeth.

987
00:48:53,458 --> 00:48:57,417
You know, like, "Martha,
Martha, Martha," you know?

988
00:48:57,500 --> 00:49:00,625
You think it looks like a
standoff before a cage fight?

989
00:49:00,708 --> 00:49:04,708
You know, you think he's giving
her the stare down? No.

990
00:49:04,792 --> 00:49:11,583
I see Jesus smiling, maybe even being
a little bit playful. Right?

991
00:49:11,667 --> 00:49:13,375
A little goofy 'cause
she's so serious.

992
00:49:13,458 --> 00:49:16,458
"Oh my gosh, I have to put
together 1,000 hors d'oeurvres."

993
00:49:16,542 --> 00:49:19,250
"Martha, Martha, Martha."

994
00:49:19,333 --> 00:49:22,167
All right, I think Jesus has
got a friendship with her.

995
00:49:22,250 --> 00:49:25,000
She's like a sister
and he's drawing her out

996
00:49:25,083 --> 00:49:26,583
inviting her out.

997
00:49:26,667 --> 00:49:28,375
"Hey, Martha,
let's refocus this.

998
00:49:28,458 --> 00:49:30,375
"Martha, Martha, you
know I love you.

999
00:49:30,458 --> 00:49:31,958
"Come on, let's talk about this.

1000
00:49:32,042 --> 00:49:35,500
Let me pull you
out of your funk."

1001
00:49:35,583 --> 00:49:40,875
You Marthas, we Marthas need to
know Jesus is smilin' at her.

1002
00:49:40,958 --> 00:49:43,458
He loves her.
He's not condemning her.

1003
00:49:43,542 --> 00:49:46,667
He's not just trying to put
another thing on her to-do list

1004
00:49:46,750 --> 00:49:50,833
so she can check quiet time.

1005
00:49:50,917 --> 00:49:53,250
He's inviting her
into relationship.

1006
00:49:53,333 --> 00:49:56,042
He's drawing her out,
loving and encouraging her.

1007
00:49:56,125 --> 00:49:58,708
That's Jesus with
you today, Martha.

1008
00:49:58,792 --> 00:50:02,542
He loves you, not mad at you.

1009
00:50:02,625 --> 00:50:05,125
But he has some things
he needs to tell you.

1010
00:50:05,208 --> 00:50:07,500
So sit at his feet.

1011
00:50:07,583 --> 00:50:09,833
Here's what we need to
do as well, Marthas.

1012
00:50:09,917 --> 00:50:13,417
We need to apologize
to the Marys, right?

1013
00:50:13,500 --> 00:50:15,167
"Sorry.

1014
00:50:15,250 --> 00:50:18,417
"Man, the whole time I've been
nagging and frustrated

1015
00:50:18,500 --> 00:50:21,667
"and bitter and bossy.

1016
00:50:21,750 --> 00:50:24,667
"I was trying to
make you like me, huh.

1017
00:50:24,750 --> 00:50:27,375
"You were trying to be
like Jesus

1018
00:50:27,458 --> 00:50:29,792
and I was trying to make you
like me."

1019
00:50:29,875 --> 00:50:32,458
The point of discipleship is
not to make people like us,

1020
00:50:32,542 --> 00:50:36,125
but to make people like
him, by the grace of God.

1021
00:50:36,208 --> 00:50:39,167
Some of you with your spouse,
your kids, your friends,

1022
00:50:39,250 --> 00:50:45,333
you keep nagging,
condemning, browbeating.

1023
00:50:45,417 --> 00:50:49,042
You want them to be
like you and help.

1024
00:50:49,125 --> 00:50:52,000
Maybe they're spending time with
Jesus and you need to do

1025
00:50:52,083 --> 00:50:55,500
the same and they're trying
to become like him.

1026
00:50:55,583 --> 00:50:57,792
And they don't need
to become like you.

1027
00:50:57,875 --> 00:51:00,417
You need to become
like him as well.

1028
00:51:00,500 --> 00:51:03,250
Some of you just need to
apologize to the Marys.

1029
00:51:03,333 --> 00:51:06,250
I'm a Martha.
My wife's a Martha.

1030
00:51:06,333 --> 00:51:07,750
We're both Marthas.

1031
00:51:07,833 --> 00:51:10,125
That's how we got it done.

1032
00:51:10,208 --> 00:51:13,500
Early on at Mars Hill, man, we
would do, do, do, do, do, do,

1033
00:51:13,583 --> 00:51:16,167
do all the community
groups, all the premarital,

1034
00:51:16,250 --> 00:51:19,250
all the membership classes,
everything in our home.

1035
00:51:19,333 --> 00:51:23,125
Between 2-3,000 people
a year in our home.

1036
00:51:23,208 --> 00:51:26,958
We were Martha on crack,
on steroids, on Red Bull,

1037
00:51:27,042 --> 00:51:28,458
on Monster.

1038
00:51:28,542 --> 00:51:32,458
I mean, it was just insane.

1039
00:51:32,542 --> 00:51:36,000
And I've had to, in recent
years, and I did it again today,

1040
00:51:36,083 --> 00:51:37,708
apologize to Gracie.

1041
00:51:37,792 --> 00:51:39,375
Honey, I'm a Martha.
You're a Martha.

1042
00:51:39,458 --> 00:51:42,333
I mean, that means we
have two gas, no brake.

1043
00:51:42,417 --> 00:51:43,750
You know?
We go fast,

1044
00:51:43,833 --> 00:51:46,542
it's an exciting ride, but
everybody dies in the end,

1045
00:51:46,625 --> 00:51:51,042
you know?

1046
00:51:51,125 --> 00:51:53,458
And so, honey, I'm
sorry that I pushed.

1047
00:51:53,542 --> 00:51:55,500
I'm sorry that I
didn't draw you out.

1048
00:51:55,583 --> 00:51:57,875
And I'm sorry for the times
that I was frustrated.

1049
00:51:57,958 --> 00:52:01,542
That unlike Jesus, I didn't come
to you lovingly, playfully,

1050
00:52:01,625 --> 00:52:03,167
and invite you.

1051
00:52:03,250 --> 00:52:05,333
Instead, I was more
condemning of you.

1052
00:52:05,417 --> 00:52:07,958
So we've had that talk
at the Driscoll house.

1053
00:52:08,042 --> 00:52:10,708
You need to apologize
to the Marys.

1054
00:52:10,792 --> 00:52:15,542
And then you need to make
your Mary time first priority.

1055
00:52:15,625 --> 00:52:20,708
Church, community group, Bible
reading, prayer, day off,

1056
00:52:20,792 --> 00:52:24,125
time with God and his people.

1057
00:52:24,208 --> 00:52:26,833
Now, Gracie and I were talking
about this and here's what

1058
00:52:26,917 --> 00:52:31,542
Gracie does every--she's
my wife if you're new.

1059
00:52:31,625 --> 00:52:33,333
Grace, every Sunday morning,

1060
00:52:33,417 --> 00:52:35,542
she gets up bright and early
with me.

1061
00:52:35,625 --> 00:52:37,542
She doesn't need to,
but she's Martha

1062
00:52:37,625 --> 00:52:40,667
and it's her responsibility
to cook me breakfast.

1063
00:52:40,750 --> 00:52:43,125
That's what she has
appointed herself to.

1064
00:52:43,208 --> 00:52:45,917
I have not asked for it,
but there are benefits

1065
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:47,500
being married to Martha,
like breakfast.

1066
00:52:47,583 --> 00:52:51,208
So I get up early on Sunday
mornings and she wants to get up

1067
00:52:51,292 --> 00:52:54,208
and make me breakfast while I'm
gettin' ready to save me time,

1068
00:52:54,292 --> 00:52:55,667
make sure I eat well.

1069
00:52:55,750 --> 00:52:59,417
And then she wants to talk with
me and pray with me and make

1070
00:52:59,500 --> 00:53:02,375
sure I get my vitamins and
then send me out the door.

1071
00:53:02,458 --> 00:53:04,375
So there's benefits to
being married to Martha.

1072
00:53:04,458 --> 00:53:06,792
But I told her last
night, "Honey, sleep in.

1073
00:53:06,875 --> 00:53:09,208
"You're tired.
It's been a heck of a week.

1074
00:53:09,292 --> 00:53:11,208
And I'll take care of it.
Don't worry."

1075
00:53:11,292 --> 00:53:12,750
"No, no, no, it's
my responsibility.

1076
00:53:12,833 --> 00:53:14,208
I have to get up early."

1077
00:53:14,292 --> 00:53:16,208
And so we have this
little Martha argument.

1078
00:53:16,292 --> 00:53:19,583
So I got up this morning before
my alarm and I was sort of

1079
00:53:19,667 --> 00:53:22,583
ninja quiet, you know?
I was ninja quiet.

1080
00:53:22,667 --> 00:53:25,792
And I got ready and I snuck
downstairs and I got out of

1081
00:53:25,875 --> 00:53:28,792
the house before I woke her
up so she could sleep.

1082
00:53:28,875 --> 00:53:30,792
I wanted her to
have a Mary morning.

1083
00:53:30,875 --> 00:53:33,583
And so then she sent me
an e-mail this morning,

1084
00:53:33,667 --> 00:53:35,375
unsolicited.

1085
00:53:35,458 --> 00:53:37,875
I will read it to you.

1086
00:53:37,958 --> 00:53:39,958
No, it's--here's
how it starts.

1087
00:53:40,042 --> 00:53:42,958
"If you need to use me
as an example of Martha,

1088
00:53:43,042 --> 00:53:46,958
I'm fine with that."

1089
00:53:47,042 --> 00:53:48,875
This is my sweetie pie.

1090
00:53:48,958 --> 00:53:51,833
"During the beginning years
of Mars Hill, I was a Martha,

1091
00:53:51,917 --> 00:53:54,458
"sitting as Mary only
when I was stressed out.

1092
00:53:54,542 --> 00:53:56,542
"I went on my own
strength for awhile,

1093
00:53:56,625 --> 00:53:59,250
"pleasing people and receiving
encouragement from them.

1094
00:53:59,333 --> 00:54:02,292
"This was neglectful
of the Lord and you.

1095
00:54:02,375 --> 00:54:04,667
"Through the years, I am
learning that if and when

1096
00:54:04,750 --> 00:54:07,542
"I don't sit at the feet of
Jesus first and regularly,

1097
00:54:07,625 --> 00:54:11,458
"I neglect my family, feel
frantic getting things done,

1098
00:54:11,542 --> 00:54:13,917
"get overwhelmed with
all my responsibilities,

1099
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:16,167
"and am empty inside.

1100
00:54:16,250 --> 00:54:19,167
"I notice a difference when I
spend time in prayer and reading

1101
00:54:19,250 --> 00:54:21,875
"and study and my day
comes out of that.

1102
00:54:21,958 --> 00:54:24,292
"I have peace, calm, patience,
attentiveness to

1103
00:54:24,375 --> 00:54:28,875
"true priorities, and don't feel
defeated when my list of tasks

1104
00:54:28,958 --> 00:54:32,125
"doesn't get completed.

1105
00:54:32,208 --> 00:54:35,333
"Because I am a disorganized
Martha," which just so you know,

1106
00:54:35,417 --> 00:54:38,375
that's a rare kind of Martha.

1107
00:54:38,458 --> 00:54:41,375
"I'm very, very busy!"
"Doing what?"

1108
00:54:41,458 --> 00:54:44,583
"I don't know! But it's urgent
that I complete it."

1109
00:54:44,667 --> 00:54:47,417
"Okey dokey."

1110
00:54:47,500 --> 00:54:50,500
"Because I am
a disorganized Martha,

1111
00:54:50,583 --> 00:54:53,417
"it can be even worse when I
don't sit with Jesus

1112
00:54:53,500 --> 00:54:55,083
"and I let distractions
overtake me.

1113
00:54:55,167 --> 00:54:59,042
"My heart and desire now is to
have God show me how to do both

1114
00:54:59,125 --> 00:55:00,917
"well for the rest of my life.

1115
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:03,458
Love you, Grace."

1116
00:55:03,542 --> 00:55:07,000
I appreciate my wife talking
this through with me.

1117
00:55:07,083 --> 00:55:09,958
Some of you need
to talk it through.

1118
00:55:10,042 --> 00:55:13,292
Some of you Marthas don't
understand that the Marys

1119
00:55:13,375 --> 00:55:17,000
in your life are feeling
really lonely.

1120
00:55:17,083 --> 00:55:19,375
They're eating
meals by themselves.

1121
00:55:19,458 --> 00:55:22,167
Some of you, this
is your spouse.

1122
00:55:22,250 --> 00:55:24,833
They're going
places by themself.

1123
00:55:24,917 --> 00:55:30,083
They're reading, relaxing,
praying by themselves.

1124
00:55:30,167 --> 00:55:32,083
You keep walking by.

1125
00:55:32,167 --> 00:55:33,667
"I'll be there in a minute.

1126
00:55:33,750 --> 00:55:35,667
"I just got to--oh,
one more thing.

1127
00:55:35,750 --> 00:55:38,292
"Oh, the phone rang.
Oh, the e-mail came in.

1128
00:55:38,375 --> 00:55:40,458
Oh, the kids puked."

1129
00:55:40,542 --> 00:55:43,583
There's always something.

1130
00:55:44,875 --> 00:55:48,125
The Marys are lonely.

1131
00:55:48,208 --> 00:55:53,250
They respect, they appreciate,
they are blessed by the Marthas,

1132
00:55:53,333 --> 00:55:56,958
but they're lonely around them.

1133
00:55:57,042 --> 00:56:01,000
And sometimes the Marthas don't
even pay attention to the Marys

1134
00:56:01,083 --> 00:56:05,375
unless the Marys have a
problem or a need or a crisis.

1135
00:56:05,458 --> 00:56:07,500
And then they're there to help,

1136
00:56:07,583 --> 00:56:12,417
but otherwise they
tend to ignore.

1137
00:56:12,500 --> 00:56:14,583
We've looked at Mary.

1138
00:56:14,667 --> 00:56:16,500
We've looked at Martha.

1139
00:56:16,583 --> 00:56:18,458
Let me ask one final question.

1140
00:56:18,542 --> 00:56:21,375
How do you think Jesus felt?

1141
00:56:21,458 --> 00:56:25,500
I think Jesus missed Martha.

1142
00:56:25,583 --> 00:56:28,000
I think he appreciated her
hard work, her devotion,

1143
00:56:28,083 --> 00:56:29,500
her hospitality.

1144
00:56:29,583 --> 00:56:32,333
I believe he was grateful
that she opened her home.

1145
00:56:32,417 --> 00:56:34,917
I think she was right in
recognizing that there was

1146
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:38,958
a need and people were
requiring loving service.

1147
00:56:39,042 --> 00:56:42,333
I don't think Jesus condemns
her for any of that.

1148
00:56:42,417 --> 00:56:47,625
But he does reveal her heart
motive and he invites her

1149
00:56:47,708 --> 00:56:50,458
to spend time with him.

1150
00:56:50,542 --> 00:56:53,500
Friends, let me say this.

1151
00:56:53,583 --> 00:56:58,375
Perhaps it is that
Jesus simply misses you.

1152
00:56:58,458 --> 00:57:01,458
He doesn't need you to do more.

1153
00:57:01,542 --> 00:57:07,917
Like every relationship, he just
wants time with you

1154
00:57:08,000 --> 00:57:10,667
because he cares for you.

1155
00:57:10,750 --> 00:57:13,708
And I believe that is
his invitation to Martha.

1156
00:57:13,792 --> 00:57:17,542
"Martha, Martha, I'm
passing through town.

1157
00:57:17,625 --> 00:57:19,333
"I'm not gonna be here for long.

1158
00:57:19,417 --> 00:57:21,917
"Eventually, they're
gonna crucify me.

1159
00:57:22,000 --> 00:57:24,917
"I have a lot of foes.
I have a lot of friends.

1160
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:28,292
"I have a lot of foes,
I have a lot of fans.

1161
00:57:28,375 --> 00:57:30,083
"I don't have a lot of friends.

1162
00:57:30,167 --> 00:57:31,875
"Martha, you're
one of my friends.

1163
00:57:31,958 --> 00:57:33,708
"We're here.

1164
00:57:33,792 --> 00:57:36,542
"Let's just sit in the living
room and visit with everybody

1165
00:57:36,625 --> 00:57:38,417
"and pray and talk and laugh.

1166
00:57:38,500 --> 00:57:40,417
"We miss you.
I miss you.

1167
00:57:40,500 --> 00:57:44,542
We all miss you."

1168
00:57:44,625 --> 00:57:48,542
Jesus missed Martha.

1169
00:57:48,625 --> 00:57:54,417
He didn't need her, but he loved
her and he enjoyed her

1170
00:57:54,500 --> 00:57:56,833
and he pursued her.

1171
00:57:56,917 --> 00:58:00,333
So here's what we're
going to do now.

1172
00:58:00,417 --> 00:58:04,167
We're going to give you Marthas
an opportunity to not leave,

1173
00:58:04,250 --> 00:58:09,375
check your e-mail, Twitter that
it was a very convicting sermon,

1174
00:58:09,458 --> 00:58:12,625
run out the door first
so you can beat traffic

1175
00:58:12,708 --> 00:58:15,167
and get a good seat
at a place to eat.

1176
00:58:15,250 --> 00:58:16,625
And I know you Marthas.

1177
00:58:16,708 --> 00:58:19,667
You're like, "Oh, man, he just
knocked out my to-do list."

1178
00:58:19,750 --> 00:58:21,875
Okay, let's get
a little Mary time.

1179
00:58:21,958 --> 00:58:26,125
Just be together in the presence
of Jesus as God's people.

1180
00:58:26,208 --> 00:58:29,833
And for those of
us who are Marthas,

1181
00:58:29,917 --> 00:58:32,708
we need to apologize
to some of the Marys.

1182
00:58:32,792 --> 00:58:36,375
For those of us who are Marys,
we need to forgive the Marthas

1183
00:58:36,458 --> 00:58:40,958
that we feel bitter
against or neglected by.

1184
00:58:41,042 --> 00:58:42,958
We're gonna take Communion,
which is remembering Jesus'

1185
00:58:43,042 --> 00:58:45,792
broken body and shed blood
in our place for our sins,

1186
00:58:45,875 --> 00:58:48,875
that before we work, we
remember Jesus' work.

1187
00:58:48,958 --> 00:58:50,875
We don't work for our salvation.

1188
00:58:50,958 --> 00:58:53,667
We work from our salvation.
Amen?

1189
00:58:53,750 --> 00:58:56,458
That Jesus said it was finished,
so the most important work

1190
00:58:56,542 --> 00:58:59,917
was done on the cross and
through the empty tomb.

1191
00:59:00,000 --> 00:59:02,000
And we're going to sing.

1192
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And as we sing, it's a Mary
moment together to sit at

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the feet of Jesus and to enjoy him,
and him to enjoy us. Amen?

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So Father God, I thank
you so much for the Bible,

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the most earnest,
honest, truthful,

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and the only perfect book
that has ever been written.

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I thank you that in it there are
real stories of real people

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with real sin and real
failures and real needs.

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And I ask, Lord Jesus, that
as we have a Mary moment

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in your presence, to sing and
contemplate and consider,

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that you would send
the Holy Spirit to encourage,

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to draw out,
to refocus the Marthas,

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to allow the Marys to
be patient and humble,

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forgiving and encouraging.

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And that, Lord Jesus, that you
would choose

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to meet with us now.

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We ask for this gift as we come
to sit at your feet as Mary did.

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May we have Mary's heart
and Martha's hands.

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May it be Mary first
and Martha second.

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Please help us to learn that now as
we practice your presence. Amen.