This set of posts comes from Pastor Mark Driscoll and his wife Grace. The sermon series The Peasant Princess brought up dozens of questions that they felt they should respond to. The result is this blog series: Christian Sex: Frank Answers to Honest Questions.
Answer: Lou Paget (a non-Christian) has written a book for women called
How to Be a Great Lover. It includes a chapter with many alternatives for a good helping hand that she may want to try. In addition, tell her what you do and do not like while she is experimenting so that she can learn through experience with you. This will be very important when you are unable to have normal sexual relations (e.g., after the birth of a baby). If you are agreeable to using toys, there is a website (please note that we do not necessarily endorse everything on this site) where you can order discreetly and without indecent packaging
www.covenantspice.com. Some toys for men can be used to stimulate him while you are participating in pleasuring him, so as to not just leave it up to the toy alone, but build oneness.